Easing the divorce.

"The amendments now empower judges to exercise discretion in granting divorce if one of the partners does not move a second ‘joint application’ for divorce with mutual consent".

Hmm... seems this to be a very skilful matured step of the government towards adaptability of changes & modernity of advancing centuries!!

To cope up with the growing liberality this would really prove to be helpful attempt made on their part to allow couples involving both the genders to choose to be in the relation of marriage only as far as they feel comfortable, compatible ......eventually happier in this relation.

Neither of them hereafter could possessively make stringent decision to forcibly keep the other tied up in their marriage on the ground that without his or her consent the other can't be freed or take the life to the other way of happiness.

Is this kind of extortion in any relation right?? Is the marriage inspite being a vital relation of everyones life cant be consensual?

In many  prevailing cases if a single partner in the couple do not agree to divorce the other partner cant be freed from this relation for the life time ruining both the lives & having no future or present to that relation.

Marriage remaining no more the marriage but as if the person is hanged till death :-x

If the person has decided to move on from relation then how could he or she be forcibly bound to be in it....The intention here is not to support bigamy by criticising or downgrading monogamy where a woman is one man oriented & a man is one woman oriented....But the point to understand & accept is that marriage should exist as far as both the partners mutually want to be in this relation not just because the other is not giving divorce or forcibly keeping the other specially when the other has already decided to apart moving to other way & honestly accepting if the relation & the love between the two is maturely stronger then no divorce or any law would interrupt in this relation ever but if they then one must be cautious enough to have the whole strength & understanding in accepting it because none of them would be happy either ways!!

If either amongst the two decides to divorce one must have the full choice to retain the other with all necessary possibilities of saving their marriage but still if it doesn't work then its always better to mutually set free from such relation though its very painful decision on part of both but forcibly keeping together with so many differences would also be no lesser painful to them.

As far as responsibilities of both partner towards each others are concern neither of them has a chance to escape them as there are still many existing laws to tackle such situations ruling the maintenance of woman's living, rights in the property, equivalent compensations, alimony....& so & so..

Lets await what more comes forth & how our Indian government executes this enforcement in such way that this new proposed law justify the purpose of easing the divorces neither making it biased towards single gender nor making it unjust towards either!!

Good night & Happy blogging!

Man's work...every woman's co wife.

Boy: "My work is my priority"

Girl: Work?? But you promised me you will take me out for a dinner tonight & i canceled my important meet just for that & you have no time for me.....Bla bla bla

Its very usual that men always select their work over anything else & women always prioritise love, relations......Why does this happen??

Men's are more concern about their works & we women in our works also take some time out to think about & to miss the male in our lives.

On contrary, Sometime women too emphasises on love such that they start demanding their men to just leave their work in hand no matter the importance & how urgent is it required to be done but they just need them to be available all time......In both these cases ai'nt we feel like saying....How mean??

Frankly speaking man's work is the co-wife for every woman ...lolz.. :-)

Co-wife because men are spending more time & are very busy & engaged all the time with their work thinking 24*7 about the same prioritising many times their work before the women of their lives & their relations.

This is nothing but just the possessiveness of both...One who is possessive for work & the other for love & there is no end for these possessiveness making balance in their lives more difficult by unable to meet or satisfy each other basic needs.

I have heard girls sharing their sad stories that their partners give no time to them & few hours which they get to spend together those also are spent discussing work meetings, progress, checking official mails & answering office calls & on other sides boys complaining "yaar ek number ki chipku hai, bas main hi main chahiye chaubiso ghante :-) Sarcastic though very common stories of all time!!

But many problems here gets solved  just when these two understand & accepts each other needs & handle them with care.

If man remembers that just like his work is so important for him for woman he is as important as it is & if he can't stay without his work than how could he expect woman to stay  without him?? at the same time woman should also understand that if man cant give time when he is in work that doesn't mean he don't love or respect her but its just that he has his priorities in which work comes first which she needs to accept as ultimately he too has his need of being loved & loving for which he will surely return to his one & only option .......his woman just like an old hindi song "Jaaiye Aap Kahaan Jaayenge
Ye Nazar Laut Ke Phir Aayegii "  ;-)
So why to treat these blissful needs of each other with possessiveness.

If man is busy working give him his own time & he will be back happily to cheer up with his love & if woman is craving for her man's time he should also give her his time so that she won't ever want him to leave his work next time as by then she knows he will be there for her once he is done with her co-wife....his work ;-)

Good night & Happy blogging!

Falling in love with place we daily visit....."Our office"

How many of us do fall in love with their office?? Isn't that making every person reading this to stagger ahead for an answer?? & of course falling in love with beautiful places we holidayed at is common but falling in love with office??
"Office"...the place where we spend half of the time in our lives even sometime more than it, the place where we meet some of our friends, colleagues, some well wisher, some rivals, some critics..... in short the most interesting planet where we get to meet so many characteristics at the same place & time to work with.
Though many of us may not have have agreed it so far but its good to confess that we somewhere sometime are loving our office.
There being many reasons that we may not find anywhere else like getting to meet our friends daily who are actually our peers, going for tea breaks together with office gossips at every sip of it, Sharing each other "dibbas" Tiffins, office humours, back bites, festive joys & special day celebrations & last but not least our work which ultimately plays a very important role by setting our idle devil mind's busy <{:->
Do we really share our lunch anywhere we go?? do we  really have these all fun at places we often visit?? Not really... 
Adding to that, Just like in family we have  so called "Karta" the head of the family who ruins all horses in offices too we have a very interesting chief of admiration our "Boss" admiration in terms of our continuos attention that we pay to our bosses either to listen their work orders, sometime seeking their applause or  appreciations & many a time just to observe their mood swings so that we can successfully predict how our day or the coming days & months will be spent in office :-) we just keep observing them for their every whereabouts which gradually starts becoming more like an exciting thing to do! 
& Finally coming to the most ambiguous  though very natural part of this fun- short time crushes those happen in offices regularly when two different genders spend together hours & hours working together, seeing each other  flattering with the one & interacting though only for work purpose .... But it's absolutely normal thing to happen between these two opposite sexes meeting everyday at the same place "Office" making it more of fun sometime that we are left with no option than to wanting to be there everyday for all these reasons!!
Office fun is the only fun that knowingly or unknowingly we all enjoy daily in our lives & the most interesting is we get all these adventures along with getting our pockets filled in.
One would certainly fall in love with office if these all funs are lived to be enjoyed accepting our office as a place we visit daily & fall in love with!!

Good night & happy blogging!

Choosing between "Love or Arrange Marriage"

Since the contract named "Marriage" came into existence the question which has always been into discussion has still remained unanswered whether love marriage or arrange marriage .......
My opinion can be "Love marriage"......
Its really strange to know that ever since childhood our parents have always refrained us from talking to a stranger than how could one  expect us to decide upon spending the whole life with the one??
After & all marriage is not just the association of two people but two bodies & souls than how could these two absolutely different souls become one??
Specially thinking from we females point of view for us to get close or allow someone to enter into our personal space is very difficult unless we are not comfortable with the one or till we know someone to that level where our heart, our mind & eventually our soul accepts the person.
Though our parents in a very presentable way put forth their experiences to lure us with all the bliss they had in being stranger & tying the knot by getting into arrange marriage for us the imaginations of such marriages also becomes so terrifying.....
I am not saying that this applies to all as their are still many people who prefer arrange marriages just because of  reasons those could be parents preferences, rituals, customs, family pressure & businesses.
When i say family businesses i mean specially the typical business oriented families for whom the marriage itself is the most lucrative part of their family businesses which they treat as a big deal exchanging their future profit prospects with this association.
But is it always right to associate two bodies & souls for the sake of money business?? I seriously feel pity for the childrens of  such families who are given no right to select the partners of their own choice ... the one whom they love, the one whom they are more comfortable with & finally the one with whom they can spend their whole lives happily.
People in such marriages end up taking each other as a lifetime duty unlike those in love marriages who spend their lives caring lovingly each other :-)
Many of us still under the myth fear love marriages. The myth that marriages are all about the association of two families & that families intervenes in mishaps only if its an arrange marriage & they wont extend their support if its the love marriage......My understanding here is why to let your relation depend on the support of others & is such a worth relation when it needs to be guided & is influenced by others on contrary in love marriages the life time association gets built on just the mutual understandings & support of two people who are in truly love with each other :-)
At the same time, iam not saying families are of few importance in marriages but either be love or arrange their value remains the same in both & its always suggested that things could be much better when families also accept the fact that finally this should be the choice of those who ultimately have to spend their whole lives together.
Frankly telling for people like me who believe in living every single moment of life arrange marriages will never work out because till the time we start knowing & understanding each other for us we might have missed much of it, we just cant wait for love to happen & who knows in our arrange marriage whether it may happen or may not?? & knowing that in love marriage right from every single minute after marriage we have much to live we can never miss it!!
Last but not least facing the truth & to say is marriage is just like gambling you never know which marriage works out for you so its better to take chance by loving & be prepared for win & loss situation!! & believe this if its won than the sky's the limit for both :-) 
So.....Its good to set our heart free & let it love to whom it loves & just because of the fear of love marriage don't stop loving. Love marriage is much better always than the one arranged atleast it solves the actual purpose of being married....That is to spend life happily with the person whom you love rather than spending the whole life knowing & understanding to accept for loving the very stranger person in your life.

Good night & Happy blogging!

Parenting our own parents.

This is a very unique & wonderful experience of life when we are parenting those who have parented us our entire childhood.
Parenting our own parents!
Childishness that happens at older age is absolutely normal when parents start demanding more of paternal care from their own children's.

Right from reminding their medicines, their spectacles on the head, the plays, the serials or TV shows time & of course answering their same questions several times & much more....
The most interesting thing that happen while this parenting is when we start listening willingly or unwillingly sometime to very very old songs say....flash back Gurudutt songs ....oh! Some songs those were sung when even our mom & dad were young waiting for each other..uff!
To the wonder  time here reverses to such extent that with those whom we use to go holding hands while crossing the trafficked roads & to the gardens, playgrounds to play today we are holding their hands to make them cross the roads safely & they start staring us for their morning & evening walks......

Those were the days when we use to invite our friends at home just because our mom makes so tasty pakoda's & tasty evening snacks to let our friends know how pampered are we but now while parenting our own parents this gives a very new experience when our parents get their age mates just because they want them to know how caring & respectful their children's are or i must accept the truth by saying to let their age mates know that how they control their children's at this old age as well!! :-)

Their every single sneeze & every small pain puts us beside their bed sitting & doctoring, diagnosing & over that they would pretend to be more ill when it comes to spending some time specially to go out with us for a movie or their favourite events or to attend any family functions leaving us with no option other than taking a day off from office :-/  just as we pretended to have fever or stomach pain for taking a school leave to go to a circus in the city or zoo with them.

Truly speaking inspite of all, these are very special moments of lives for them as well as for us....Here we are experiencing something which they have gone through past so many years & on the contrary they are experiencing all those joys those we had with them since our childhood.
The pleasure of exchanging these experiences itself is a very pleasurable experience!
I believe the sense of responsibility & maturity that we gain while this parenting with all these practicalities is going to be very helpful for us our entire lives, specially when we are parents ourselves.

So, Let this experience be such joyous ...& seriously its really amazing feeling to be parent to our own parents :-)

Good night & Happy blogging!

We are never grown till we are child again.

Who says with growing age we all grow?? The truth is that we just go on adding years & years to our lives....Otherwise the child in us stays forever.
You might be wondering which child am i talking about?? So let me elucidate that i am talking about the child in all of us.
The child which appears every often in us specially with those whom we are more comfortable with & from whom we are pampered giving us the feel of maternal & paternal tenderness.
To know here is that their are two children in us i am about to mention

1. The grown up child within us &
2. Child who is not grown.

Grown up child in us is the one who is directed & who follows our brain showing the sign of every maturity needed at par with our growing age.
But at the same time our not grown child is the one who is more influenced by our heart just like the title of the film "Dil toh bachcha hai ji".
The relation between these two children in us is just like our brain & heart sometime the brain plays its role & sometime our heart....but not to forget that both of their role plays very important part in our lives.
One who matures us & the other who makes us child again making the balance between these two very crucial.
Never let either of these to rule or over rule other, consequently let them play their roles as & when rightly assigned to them by you.
So, Make them appear when their appearance is needed as per the situations of life & the people we are associated with.
More like role plays we can be child to them who are too matured to tackle it & parenting those who are more comfortable to be child with us.
We are never grown till we are child again, Its always good that we don't try to over control child in us...Let it play, enjoy & have fun as it does because our grown up child innate is the one who will take care of it all time just like the grown up siblings in a family does towards all the mischief's of their youngest by controlling & guiding towards the set ethics & who understands the child being a very joyous companion to be with.
Eventually, Don't be matured all the time its good & natural to be child  sometime making life interesting with all its fun & to live it to the fullest ........after all who amongst us don't miss their childhoods :-) & don't like to be child again!! 

Bye & Happy Blogging!

Single cup of tea made by her man means a world to a woman.

Cooking has always been a special part of my life......its more like a stress relieving pill for me.

I enjoy most of my time cooking experimenting some thing new every time i cook.

My experience says that for every woman its very helpful & revitalising which not only satisfies the stomach by eating what is been made but also satisfying our soul's need of nurturing our loved ones as feeding people whom you love whom you like is the best way to love them & being their  :-) 

How good it would be if this could also be understood by the opposite sex.... men, Why man don't gives it a thought once that if he prefers his woman to cook delicious food for him & the one who cooks food well is the one who manages to get the boarding pass to his heart.........then how it would be if he also try to get this one for him???

I mean.. If for women cooking for men is needed just to care or impress them through feeding good tasty food & win their hearts than why cant a man cook to win his woman's heart??

Simply speaking we women also do expect our men to cook sometime for us.......Well i know i may sound like a female chauvinist  too sarcastic here but its the bitter truth & a hidden suspense of every woman's need.

Only difference is that some women may accept & speak this up & some may not but somewhere sometime just a cup of tea or a coffee made by  man means a world to her as well.

Not being biased towards same gender i must also say that at the same time its the responsibility of every woman also to make sure that she manages to make her man do this not for dominating him but to feel his love knowing well the limitations of his self respect & without hurting his so called male ego which he sets aside just for the sake of his love towards her.

So i suggest that this could be managed well if it is understood by both of them that inspite of the gender differences their both emotional nurturing needs are same & none of them should let their ego's intervene between their way of cooking for each other & take it as a sign of dominating.....but as a beautiful way of loving more each other unconditionally.

Finally concluding that let not the cooking be the only way of we women but also of men to love & nurture the women of their lives......& seriously just a single cup of tea with love served to your loved one will make a big loving difference & mean a world to her :-) 

I am sure after reading this if you haven't ever tried before but next time you would love to do this not because you are being dominated by your woman but because you want to love & mean a world to her!!

Good Night & Happy blogging!

Intro to my evolution.

Well..... Writing after such a long time is amazingly confusing! Reason being unable to decide upon where to start from & where to end.
In spite of all feeling really excited to finally start with it :)
After seeing & observing my self expressions while reading blogs of some other bloggers, I personally prefer keeping blog's language understandably simple & crucially to the points making it very easy to read & not boring at all ......at least to people like me who like to read & write too less!
The 1st article i preferred writing on myself because that would only relate my rest all articles to me by letting know what am i upto these days & why i have landed here?
So, Quickly jotting down my evolution ........

• Right now i am enjoying being away from my origin place with small but very important part of my family "Mom & Dad".
• I am spending this time of my life in office working, cooking for posting at vibhaskitchen.in, singing, dancing, caring & giving lots of time to my lovely parents, gardening, shopping & of course this blogging phew! too many to be listed.

&...........Thats it!

Wow! Just in two lines i am living my life...... So easy to explain & happy to be lived :-)

I think this much is sufficient for today.....because writing about self is what i seriously eludes but would come up & write some new interesting articles in my next blogging sessions.....

Till then Bye!

Happy Blogging.

Back to Blogging........after 5 years

Wow! I never thought i would be back to blogging so soon........Say after 5 years :-)
Their being no reason except the laziness to write or.............. may be nothing to write.
But gradually when life starts filling up with so many unsaid, unshared pals , moments that sometime it really becomes so difficult to hold them all together with you so ultimately you land up sometime  somewhere to share with all or say some one through any mode which makes sure that what you have to say is getting said.........
Hope i may not fall short of words or reasons to write & would really enjoy writing & keeping my blog as updated as i manage to keep my Facebook profile!!
So........Write to you soon.
Bye till then.

Rgds,
Vibha