Since the contract named "Marriage" came into existence the question which has always been into discussion has still remained unanswered whether love marriage or arrange marriage .......
My opinion can be "Love marriage"......
Its really strange to know that ever since childhood our parents have always refrained us from talking to a stranger than how could one expect us to decide upon spending the whole life with the one??
After & all marriage is not just the association of two people but two bodies & souls than how could these two absolutely different souls become one??
Specially thinking from we females point of view for us to get close or allow someone to enter into our personal space is very difficult unless we are not comfortable with the one or till we know someone to that level where our heart, our mind & eventually our soul accepts the person.
Though our parents in a very presentable way put forth their experiences to lure us with all the bliss they had in being stranger & tying the knot by getting into arrange marriage for us the imaginations of such marriages also becomes so terrifying.....
I am not saying that this applies to all as their are still many people who prefer arrange marriages just because of reasons those could be parents preferences, rituals, customs, family pressure & businesses.
When i say family businesses i mean specially the typical business oriented families for whom the marriage itself is the most lucrative part of their family businesses which they treat as a big deal exchanging their future profit prospects with this association.
But is it always right to associate two bodies & souls for the sake of money business?? I seriously feel pity for the childrens of such families who are given no right to select the partners of their own choice ... the one whom they love, the one whom they are more comfortable with & finally the one with whom they can spend their whole lives happily.
People in such marriages end up taking each other as a lifetime duty unlike those in love marriages who spend their lives caring lovingly each other :-)
Many of us still under the myth fear love marriages. The myth that marriages are all about the association of two families & that families intervenes in mishaps only if its an arrange marriage & they wont extend their support if its the love marriage......My understanding here is why to let your relation depend on the support of others & is such a worth relation when it needs to be guided & is influenced by others on contrary in love marriages the life time association gets built on just the mutual understandings & support of two people who are in truly love with each other :-)
At the same time, iam not saying families are of few importance in marriages but either be love or arrange their value remains the same in both & its always suggested that things could be much better when families also accept the fact that finally this should be the choice of those who ultimately have to spend their whole lives together.
Frankly telling for people like me who believe in living every single moment of life arrange marriages will never work out because till the time we start knowing & understanding each other for us we might have missed much of it, we just cant wait for love to happen & who knows in our arrange marriage whether it may happen or may not?? & knowing that in love marriage right from every single minute after marriage we have much to live we can never miss it!!
Last but not least facing the truth & to say is marriage is just like gambling you never know which marriage works out for you so its better to take chance by loving & be prepared for win & loss situation!! & believe this if its won than the sky's the limit for both :-)
So.....Its good to set our heart free & let it love to whom it loves & just because of the fear of love marriage don't stop loving. Love marriage is much better always than the one arranged atleast it solves the actual purpose of being married....That is to spend life happily with the person whom you love rather than spending the whole life knowing & understanding to accept for loving the very stranger person in your life.
Good night & Happy blogging!
My opinion can be "Love marriage"......
Its really strange to know that ever since childhood our parents have always refrained us from talking to a stranger than how could one expect us to decide upon spending the whole life with the one??
After & all marriage is not just the association of two people but two bodies & souls than how could these two absolutely different souls become one??
Specially thinking from we females point of view for us to get close or allow someone to enter into our personal space is very difficult unless we are not comfortable with the one or till we know someone to that level where our heart, our mind & eventually our soul accepts the person.
Though our parents in a very presentable way put forth their experiences to lure us with all the bliss they had in being stranger & tying the knot by getting into arrange marriage for us the imaginations of such marriages also becomes so terrifying.....
I am not saying that this applies to all as their are still many people who prefer arrange marriages just because of reasons those could be parents preferences, rituals, customs, family pressure & businesses.
When i say family businesses i mean specially the typical business oriented families for whom the marriage itself is the most lucrative part of their family businesses which they treat as a big deal exchanging their future profit prospects with this association.
But is it always right to associate two bodies & souls for the sake of money business?? I seriously feel pity for the childrens of such families who are given no right to select the partners of their own choice ... the one whom they love, the one whom they are more comfortable with & finally the one with whom they can spend their whole lives happily.
People in such marriages end up taking each other as a lifetime duty unlike those in love marriages who spend their lives caring lovingly each other :-)
Many of us still under the myth fear love marriages. The myth that marriages are all about the association of two families & that families intervenes in mishaps only if its an arrange marriage & they wont extend their support if its the love marriage......My understanding here is why to let your relation depend on the support of others & is such a worth relation when it needs to be guided & is influenced by others on contrary in love marriages the life time association gets built on just the mutual understandings & support of two people who are in truly love with each other :-)
At the same time, iam not saying families are of few importance in marriages but either be love or arrange their value remains the same in both & its always suggested that things could be much better when families also accept the fact that finally this should be the choice of those who ultimately have to spend their whole lives together.
Frankly telling for people like me who believe in living every single moment of life arrange marriages will never work out because till the time we start knowing & understanding each other for us we might have missed much of it, we just cant wait for love to happen & who knows in our arrange marriage whether it may happen or may not?? & knowing that in love marriage right from every single minute after marriage we have much to live we can never miss it!!
Last but not least facing the truth & to say is marriage is just like gambling you never know which marriage works out for you so its better to take chance by loving & be prepared for win & loss situation!! & believe this if its won than the sky's the limit for both :-)
So.....Its good to set our heart free & let it love to whom it loves & just because of the fear of love marriage don't stop loving. Love marriage is much better always than the one arranged atleast it solves the actual purpose of being married....That is to spend life happily with the person whom you love rather than spending the whole life knowing & understanding to accept for loving the very stranger person in your life.
Good night & Happy blogging!
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