Visit to a Psychiatrist...

Shhhhh..... Hope you don't tell it to anyone, I visited psychiatrist once........ Lol!

Don't we have this expression while sharing this top secret that we visited or visiting a psychiatrist.

May be reason being our mindset that makes us think that visiting a psychiatrist is always somehow related to mental illness.

& Most funny thing i visited psychiatrist once..  for the fear "Kahi mein paagal toh nahi ho gayi"  Rofl ;-P

Oh come on guys, Let me share something that i learned from this experience, visiting a psychiatrist for anxiety, phobia, depression etc... is just as normal as visiting a pathologist for cough, cold or fever.

Its just the way of our own perception to treat this like our dark secret.

But let me tell you, this can happen to anyone anytime.

Its just the feeling when we really start hating more than loving, the people & even our own life. All we just start needing is to be alone for a longer time that we prefer either staying in a room always & doing nothing or just sleeping around. We also lose the interest in almost everything including food where we either don't like eating at all or we keep eating just everything & all we feel is to keep crying for no reason!! urghhh

By grace of god i never had any such thing so called trauma to be depressed so i was more puzzled WTF....where do this depression come from??

& That made me more curious to approach one of the renowned psychiatrist in the city. There i learned that depression or anxiety don't need any reason, its just when we start overthinking it reduces some chemical in our brain (Scientifically - Don't even remember its difficult name that doctor told ;-) & we start feeling low due to lack of that essential potion inside, lol 

Doctor tried concluding my reason for being traveling a lot & staying away from my people, family is what that was affecting me emotionally. Addition to that being genuinely single for long period ;-P which means no any kind of physical, intimate attachment increasing anxiety level & hormonal activities ;-) Hahahah

Then starts medications to increase the level of brain's nutrients :-) & of course to protect from "Suicide". OMG!

My overall experience had been adventurous because my doctor being so handsome & over that when doctor himself asked me for a date  which actually in their way of treatment courtesy is rehabilitating ;-P

But these all was not my cup of tea, drugs- medicines numbing for resting, dating a psychiatrist or other guys just for cheering & fun.... OH PLEASE!! Big Nooooo... lol

That was a time when i felt real need of using my own strength, will power & my gods blessing to overcome this. Thats when i started enjoying life with meditation, self improvement, adventurous activities, yoga & exercising for mental & physical fitness, dancing, karaoke, swimming & of course learning & cooking - multi cuisine most of the time with traveling....blabla bla

& Look at me iam such an happiest person writing blog on this now :-D & can be a good psychiatrist myself to help others also overcome this. Lol

So just believing ourselves & overcoming anything in life through our will power is what it takes to make our "Visit to a psychiatrist" so exciting & memorable!!

Enjoy blogging & live depression free life!!

Some amusing facts about social profiles dp's ...(which display picture is yours ;-)

Out of all our photos what makes us pick a single one that we think to be eligible for being the face of our profile. This relates directly to psychology in terms of our reasoning behind our selection.

Some of the true amusing observations about social profiles~Interesting reading
 
Having profile photo with toys: "I am still young with kid's heart who still loves to play. Iam such a kiddo you see!

Profile photo in couple: "We love each other so much that we want everyone to know that & be jealous to be like us. We are such a sweet couple. Made for each other!

Profile photo with some closeup pics either smiling or posing at camera: Wow! See how beautiful/ handsome iam, Don't you agree?? OR Simply "Thats me for you to know!

Having profile photo with car/bike: "Oh i drive this...Trust me you'll enjoy a real drive with me, you can see how passionate iam about it!! So fasten the seat belt & lets goooooo....

Profile Photo with pet: " Let everyone know how kind hearted iam that i care for my pets so tenderly, Such a loving, caring person iam you see!

Profile photo with kids: "Oh, I love kids so much! Maybe thats why i may/can be a very good Mom/ Dad!

Profile photos during foreign or any trips clicked at those places: "Thats the place i ever visited ......See how much i started to love (affording ;-) traveling now! A real traveler iam you see!

Profile photos with family: We are a very close knit family. How lucky family oriented person i am you see!

Profile photos while partying: " See how lively & a real party animal i am! i can be so fun to be invited in your parties as well! We like to party all night!!

Profile photos in formal wear: " Better you know that I am so workaholic professional, straightforward person & i am here just for improving my business/social contacts. let me know if you need any professional help, i am so influential person you see!

Profile photos in casual wear or wearing glares: "Iam such an easy going model open minded person you see!"

Profile photo in saree/ traditional wears: I am so homely girl / wife or boy /husband you see! I am or can be such a good homemaker to be domesticated.

Profile photo absolutely personal: "Don't you see how hot & sexy iam" ooh lala...don't forget to like to get liked  ;-)

Cartoons as profile photos: "Please make sure to know I am really not so serious matured person but too funny sometime! Such a cartoon iam :-D

Profile photos of Celebrities: They can be my replica! See how much i look like them, You see my celebrity look..oh yah!

Side face/ Blurred pics/ hidden pics: "See how conservative iam, i created my profile on social websites but i still don't share my pics. Iam such a shy & so reserved person you see!

Profile photos with technology like tablets, phones, laptops etc etc: How tech savvy i am you see.... i started to use (affording ) them so much now,  So brilliant & genius iam!

Profile photos during shopping at designers/ brands & branded stores : " See how quality/brand conscious person iam that now i started to use (affording) such luxurious brands..... i could be a brand ambassador you see!

Profile photos worshipping/ doing Puja/ god or goddess: I am so god fearing person! God is everywhere around me so, don't ever think of any bad for me or else you will be cursed/sinned...Iam such a blessed person!

Profile photos at office with office ID or name : You See how successful career i have....so well settled person i am now!

Profile photos in sports dress or playing sports: "How sporty person iam you see! i can play it really hard.

Profile photos with friends: "We are so loving friends forever...you can also be so lucky if you have friends like me, pouts... xx ..Iam such a friendly person you see!

Profile photos with written thoughts: " Though i cant say it directly at least people would read them here as my message to them!......XYZ please read as its dedicated for you only!

Hahaahahah ;-P

Happy Blogging!!

Flirtationship

Just like relationship we can have flirtationship ......lol!

Its all about flirting which exactly in the meaning of dictionary is 

"To behave as though sexually attracted to someone, but playfully rather than with serious intentions"

"Experiment with or show a superficial interest in (an idea, activity, or movement) without committing oneself to it seriously".

Attraction to opposite sex is quite natural & universal or else its considered to be abnormality ;-P

Come on guys lets accept it that some time some where with someone we all feel to flirt :-)

Good read explains "For those who are single its their way of saying I am free & to those in committed relationship its their way of saying I am bored".

Its natural...Just like given to eat same food every day anyone would get bored of it, we all need changes to spice up our routine appetite :-)

Truth here is that flirting is not always wrong, for those who are single & are bored of all their freedom ;-) &  those who are  already in committed relationships for them to be free to flirt without needing any dedication gets excited.

Recently this is practised as being in "Lifestyle" by many committed partners those with each others mutual understanding & consent get into the fun outside their own relations, more like open marriages or relationships, swapping, swinging.....which may sound filthy to us to some extent.

But, belief here is that it helps them to stay loyal by not requiring to cheat on each other in relationship.

Its on their own acceptance setting certain conditions mutually & not on each others back they do it for the fact that we all need changes to spice up our existing relations.

After & all flirting is just for fun & reality is so called "Love".

Until you don't flirt you won't enjoy the pleasure in sincerity of love & unless you don't love, flirting can get you boring.... 

Real bliss here is when these two different relationship status (Single & committed) after all the flirting fun starts craving to get back to their own freedom & commitments respectively.

Singles ready to mingle & those committed ready to dedicate ;-)

In typical hindi language "kabhi na kabhi toh ghar ke hi khane ki yaad aayegihi, kab tak koi baahar hi khata rahega" "aakhir asli swaad ghar ke hi khane mein hi toh hai joh uske baad aur zyada tasty lagne lag jata hai" 

;-)

Lastly contradicting to this, no matter how open minded people are, the acceptance rate amongst men & women may vary, as this may not be so easily acceptable by everyone without getting emotionally hurt involving deep emotions,  which may either improve or worsen everything.

It may get very difficult sometime... so its better to play it carefully :-)

Happy Blogging!

Long distance close relationships

In relationships do we really think we are as close as we should be? Do we really understand each other to that extent? where just love exist & feelings speaks....

Lol... Funny but true fact, We can never be that close as we always think we are, no matter how much time we spend living together.

Thats a bliss with "Long distance close relationships" :-)
One understand other only through mental connection which is more of emotions & love than physical.

Long distance relations are really hard to survive but if they does then they are undoubtedly unbreakable whatsoever it may be.

Reason is these relations are based on mutual respect and deep faith between partners, the strong connection between them that brings them together for their emotional needs from each other.

Those who can survive such long distances in relations & never apart then nothing can ever fall in between.

Patience in every relation plays vital role & this becomes a strong base of long distance relations where partners go through a very hard long time patience test; which on qualifying can never let either of them lose it ever in any circumstances.

Many relations fails due to high expectations from each other... & here partners have already compromised highly to that level where they just live upto just a single expectation.... "love" .....wow! how romantic :-)

Its just all about always coming back again & again for each other & thats really amazing... isn't that?

Not to forget, if not handled properly such relations have high chances of failure as well, if either of them fail to understand partner needs & to understand how it feels to him or her with what is done by other being away, this could be alarming too.

So understanding partner every need & to compromise thereby with the situation to accept the fact & to be prepared to accept....of course without being jealous anything that partner does that keeps him or her fulfilled & happy is what it takes to make "Long distance close relationships" work.

Last but not least, Inspite of all the delights partners really need to make all best efforts to make sure none of them ever lose it & back out with the feeling of loneliness as after & all we all need someone, someday, sometime nearby...so its good to make it happen with joint efforts & love...

Enjoy blogging & reading :-)

Understanding the meaning of true Love.....

Wow! Finally back to right something after very long time :-)

Saying "I Love You"  is the only sign of true love.... Golden three words to describe it all....

Do we all understand true love only by these three words??

May be thats why it gets too late for almost all of us to understand the real meaning of what love is all about.

Sarcastic but the fact is there is nothing called love that exist...... Surprised!! Right??

Even i was in the same state when i understood this reality of love.

The truth is...

When parents give birth to us & they give us all happiness that we need sacrificing their comforts & almost their whole life for us to live better life....

When husband & wife in relation of marriage accepts & follow all their responsibilities caring, respecting for the happiness of each other & their future family....

When kids starts caring for their parents & does all best possibilities to ensure their parents growing old happily together....

When brother & sister inspite of all the siblings fights those goes on & on ;-) always pray & wish for each others happiness .....

& finally, when someone unconditionally assures for the lifetime for being there always for you, letting you go just for the sake of your happiness .... :-)


So, lets review these all & see one of the most common thing that matters everywhere....."Happiness"....


:-) Yes a real meaning of love ... Happiness is all that matters... when you really feel something or someone really makes you happy .....then thats a pinnacle of your life..... "A True Love".....

 So lets raise a toast to celebrate this happiness when we find it!!


Happy Blogging!!

Easing the divorce.

"The amendments now empower judges to exercise discretion in granting divorce if one of the partners does not move a second ‘joint application’ for divorce with mutual consent".

Hmm... seems this to be a very skilful matured step of the government towards adaptability of changes & modernity of advancing centuries!!

To cope up with the growing liberality this would really prove to be helpful attempt made on their part to allow couples involving both the genders to choose to be in the relation of marriage only as far as they feel comfortable, compatible ......eventually happier in this relation.

Neither of them hereafter could possessively make stringent decision to forcibly keep the other tied up in their marriage on the ground that without his or her consent the other can't be freed or take the life to the other way of happiness.

Is this kind of extortion in any relation right?? Is the marriage inspite being a vital relation of everyones life cant be consensual?

In many  prevailing cases if a single partner in the couple do not agree to divorce the other partner cant be freed from this relation for the life time ruining both the lives & having no future or present to that relation.

Marriage remaining no more the marriage but as if the person is hanged till death :-x

If the person has decided to move on from relation then how could he or she be forcibly bound to be in it....The intention here is not to support bigamy by criticising or downgrading monogamy where a woman is one man oriented & a man is one woman oriented....But the point to understand & accept is that marriage should exist as far as both the partners mutually want to be in this relation not just because the other is not giving divorce or forcibly keeping the other specially when the other has already decided to apart moving to other way & honestly accepting if the relation & the love between the two is maturely stronger then no divorce or any law would interrupt in this relation ever but if they then one must be cautious enough to have the whole strength & understanding in accepting it because none of them would be happy either ways!!

If either amongst the two decides to divorce one must have the full choice to retain the other with all necessary possibilities of saving their marriage but still if it doesn't work then its always better to mutually set free from such relation though its very painful decision on part of both but forcibly keeping together with so many differences would also be no lesser painful to them.

As far as responsibilities of both partner towards each others are concern neither of them has a chance to escape them as there are still many existing laws to tackle such situations ruling the maintenance of woman's living, rights in the property, equivalent compensations, alimony....& so & so..

Lets await what more comes forth & how our Indian government executes this enforcement in such way that this new proposed law justify the purpose of easing the divorces neither making it biased towards single gender nor making it unjust towards either!!

Good night & Happy blogging!

Man's work...every woman's co wife.

Boy: "My work is my priority"

Girl: Work?? But you promised me you will take me out for a dinner tonight & i canceled my important meet just for that & you have no time for me.....Bla bla bla

Its very usual that men always select their work over anything else & women always prioritise love, relations......Why does this happen??

Men's are more concern about their works & we women in our works also take some time out to think about & to miss the male in our lives.

On contrary, Sometime women too emphasises on love such that they start demanding their men to just leave their work in hand no matter the importance & how urgent is it required to be done but they just need them to be available all time......In both these cases ai'nt we feel like saying....How mean??

Frankly speaking man's work is the co-wife for every woman ...lolz.. :-)

Co-wife because men are spending more time & are very busy & engaged all the time with their work thinking 24*7 about the same prioritising many times their work before the women of their lives & their relations.

This is nothing but just the possessiveness of both...One who is possessive for work & the other for love & there is no end for these possessiveness making balance in their lives more difficult by unable to meet or satisfy each other basic needs.

I have heard girls sharing their sad stories that their partners give no time to them & few hours which they get to spend together those also are spent discussing work meetings, progress, checking official mails & answering office calls & on other sides boys complaining "yaar ek number ki chipku hai, bas main hi main chahiye chaubiso ghante :-) Sarcastic though very common stories of all time!!

But many problems here gets solved  just when these two understand & accepts each other needs & handle them with care.

If man remembers that just like his work is so important for him for woman he is as important as it is & if he can't stay without his work than how could he expect woman to stay  without him?? at the same time woman should also understand that if man cant give time when he is in work that doesn't mean he don't love or respect her but its just that he has his priorities in which work comes first which she needs to accept as ultimately he too has his need of being loved & loving for which he will surely return to his one & only option .......his woman just like an old hindi song "Jaaiye Aap Kahaan Jaayenge
Ye Nazar Laut Ke Phir Aayegii "  ;-)
So why to treat these blissful needs of each other with possessiveness.

If man is busy working give him his own time & he will be back happily to cheer up with his love & if woman is craving for her man's time he should also give her his time so that she won't ever want him to leave his work next time as by then she knows he will be there for her once he is done with her co-wife....his work ;-)

Good night & Happy blogging!

Falling in love with place we daily visit....."Our office"

How many of us do fall in love with their office?? Isn't that making every person reading this to stagger ahead for an answer?? & of course falling in love with beautiful places we holidayed at is common but falling in love with office??
"Office"...the place where we spend half of the time in our lives even sometime more than it, the place where we meet some of our friends, colleagues, some well wisher, some rivals, some critics..... in short the most interesting planet where we get to meet so many characteristics at the same place & time to work with.
Though many of us may not have have agreed it so far but its good to confess that we somewhere sometime are loving our office.
There being many reasons that we may not find anywhere else like getting to meet our friends daily who are actually our peers, going for tea breaks together with office gossips at every sip of it, Sharing each other "dibbas" Tiffins, office humours, back bites, festive joys & special day celebrations & last but not least our work which ultimately plays a very important role by setting our idle devil mind's busy <{:->
Do we really share our lunch anywhere we go?? do we  really have these all fun at places we often visit?? Not really... 
Adding to that, Just like in family we have  so called "Karta" the head of the family who ruins all horses in offices too we have a very interesting chief of admiration our "Boss" admiration in terms of our continuos attention that we pay to our bosses either to listen their work orders, sometime seeking their applause or  appreciations & many a time just to observe their mood swings so that we can successfully predict how our day or the coming days & months will be spent in office :-) we just keep observing them for their every whereabouts which gradually starts becoming more like an exciting thing to do! 
& Finally coming to the most ambiguous  though very natural part of this fun- short time crushes those happen in offices regularly when two different genders spend together hours & hours working together, seeing each other  flattering with the one & interacting though only for work purpose .... But it's absolutely normal thing to happen between these two opposite sexes meeting everyday at the same place "Office" making it more of fun sometime that we are left with no option than to wanting to be there everyday for all these reasons!!
Office fun is the only fun that knowingly or unknowingly we all enjoy daily in our lives & the most interesting is we get all these adventures along with getting our pockets filled in.
One would certainly fall in love with office if these all funs are lived to be enjoyed accepting our office as a place we visit daily & fall in love with!!

Good night & happy blogging!

Choosing between "Love or Arrange Marriage"

Since the contract named "Marriage" came into existence the question which has always been into discussion has still remained unanswered whether love marriage or arrange marriage .......
My opinion can be "Love marriage"......
Its really strange to know that ever since childhood our parents have always refrained us from talking to a stranger than how could one  expect us to decide upon spending the whole life with the one??
After & all marriage is not just the association of two people but two bodies & souls than how could these two absolutely different souls become one??
Specially thinking from we females point of view for us to get close or allow someone to enter into our personal space is very difficult unless we are not comfortable with the one or till we know someone to that level where our heart, our mind & eventually our soul accepts the person.
Though our parents in a very presentable way put forth their experiences to lure us with all the bliss they had in being stranger & tying the knot by getting into arrange marriage for us the imaginations of such marriages also becomes so terrifying.....
I am not saying that this applies to all as their are still many people who prefer arrange marriages just because of  reasons those could be parents preferences, rituals, customs, family pressure & businesses.
When i say family businesses i mean specially the typical business oriented families for whom the marriage itself is the most lucrative part of their family businesses which they treat as a big deal exchanging their future profit prospects with this association.
But is it always right to associate two bodies & souls for the sake of money business?? I seriously feel pity for the childrens of  such families who are given no right to select the partners of their own choice ... the one whom they love, the one whom they are more comfortable with & finally the one with whom they can spend their whole lives happily.
People in such marriages end up taking each other as a lifetime duty unlike those in love marriages who spend their lives caring lovingly each other :-)
Many of us still under the myth fear love marriages. The myth that marriages are all about the association of two families & that families intervenes in mishaps only if its an arrange marriage & they wont extend their support if its the love marriage......My understanding here is why to let your relation depend on the support of others & is such a worth relation when it needs to be guided & is influenced by others on contrary in love marriages the life time association gets built on just the mutual understandings & support of two people who are in truly love with each other :-)
At the same time, iam not saying families are of few importance in marriages but either be love or arrange their value remains the same in both & its always suggested that things could be much better when families also accept the fact that finally this should be the choice of those who ultimately have to spend their whole lives together.
Frankly telling for people like me who believe in living every single moment of life arrange marriages will never work out because till the time we start knowing & understanding each other for us we might have missed much of it, we just cant wait for love to happen & who knows in our arrange marriage whether it may happen or may not?? & knowing that in love marriage right from every single minute after marriage we have much to live we can never miss it!!
Last but not least facing the truth & to say is marriage is just like gambling you never know which marriage works out for you so its better to take chance by loving & be prepared for win & loss situation!! & believe this if its won than the sky's the limit for both :-) 
So.....Its good to set our heart free & let it love to whom it loves & just because of the fear of love marriage don't stop loving. Love marriage is much better always than the one arranged atleast it solves the actual purpose of being married....That is to spend life happily with the person whom you love rather than spending the whole life knowing & understanding to accept for loving the very stranger person in your life.

Good night & Happy blogging!

Parenting our own parents.

This is a very unique & wonderful experience of life when we are parenting those who have parented us our entire childhood.
Parenting our own parents!
Childishness that happens at older age is absolutely normal when parents start demanding more of paternal care from their own children's.

Right from reminding their medicines, their spectacles on the head, the plays, the serials or TV shows time & of course answering their same questions several times & much more....
The most interesting thing that happen while this parenting is when we start listening willingly or unwillingly sometime to very very old songs say....flash back Gurudutt songs ....oh! Some songs those were sung when even our mom & dad were young waiting for each other..uff!
To the wonder  time here reverses to such extent that with those whom we use to go holding hands while crossing the trafficked roads & to the gardens, playgrounds to play today we are holding their hands to make them cross the roads safely & they start staring us for their morning & evening walks......

Those were the days when we use to invite our friends at home just because our mom makes so tasty pakoda's & tasty evening snacks to let our friends know how pampered are we but now while parenting our own parents this gives a very new experience when our parents get their age mates just because they want them to know how caring & respectful their children's are or i must accept the truth by saying to let their age mates know that how they control their children's at this old age as well!! :-)

Their every single sneeze & every small pain puts us beside their bed sitting & doctoring, diagnosing & over that they would pretend to be more ill when it comes to spending some time specially to go out with us for a movie or their favourite events or to attend any family functions leaving us with no option other than taking a day off from office :-/  just as we pretended to have fever or stomach pain for taking a school leave to go to a circus in the city or zoo with them.

Truly speaking inspite of all, these are very special moments of lives for them as well as for us....Here we are experiencing something which they have gone through past so many years & on the contrary they are experiencing all those joys those we had with them since our childhood.
The pleasure of exchanging these experiences itself is a very pleasurable experience!
I believe the sense of responsibility & maturity that we gain while this parenting with all these practicalities is going to be very helpful for us our entire lives, specially when we are parents ourselves.

So, Let this experience be such joyous ...& seriously its really amazing feeling to be parent to our own parents :-)

Good night & Happy blogging!